Slim Thug and Black Women

The official Summertime "B’WHAT!!!!!!!!!" of the year goes to some random rapper dude I’ve never heard of by the name of Slim Thug.

Nim Dug states that:

Most single Black women feel like they don’t want to settle for less. Their standards are too high right now. They have to understand that successful Black men are kind of extinct. We’re important. It’s hard to find us so Black women have to bow down and let it be known that they gotta start working hard; they gotta start cooking and being down for they man more. They can’t just be running around with their head up in the air and passing all of us.

Skim Mug also says:

My girl is Black and White. I guess the half White in her is where she still cooks and do all the shit that I say, so we make it. She just takes care of me and I like that. She don’t be begging and I don’t gotta buy her all this crazy ass shit. And she’s a smart girl too.

And Bim Zug spewed a bit ‘mo when he said:

I have a brother that dates a White woman and he always be fucking with me about it saying, “Y’all gotta go through all that shit [but] my White woman is fine. She don’t give me no problems, she do whatever I say and y’all gotta do all that arguing and fighting and worry about all this other shit.”

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It looks like Slim Thug has the Internet going nuts over his comments about Black women on his VIBE blog, sparking cries of "Slim Thug doesn’t care about Black women-people." Does the Houston rapper have a point or should he sit down? We grabbed a few relationship bloggers to offer their take on Slim’s provocative perspective.

SAYS THE SINGLE GIRL (Says The Single Girl): Black women are some of the most two-faced people on earth. One day they want to know why they are single. The next day they claim they are happy being single. Sure, @SlimThugga’s words were harsh but there was some truth to what he was saying. Of all the chicks on Twitter looking to cut his balls off I’m sure a good percentage of them would talk to him if approached. Why? He’s got (some) money and he has status. Two of the things that sit high on the Black woman’s list o’things her "good Black man" needs to have. I also believe that the backlash wouldn’t have been as bad if he didn’t compare Black women to White women. If he ended it with "Black women are a hot mess but I love them anyway," it would have been all good. It’s the White woman thing that makes the cut deeper.

Personally, it doesn’t bother me because unlike most Black women I’ve taken full responsibility for being single. There are things women do or don’t do to push a man away. When Steve Harvey writes a book about it, Black women make him a New York Times bestseller. When Slim Thug says it, Black women want to boycott VIBE and kill Slim Thug. Black women, if you are single look in the mirror and figure out why (Slim lists a lot of the reason. You just have to shift through the verbal jabs). Don’t hate a man because he’s saying–in a language you don’t agree with–that "he’s just not that into you."

SBM (SingleBlackMale): Before writing this, I know my comments will not be well received by the female Black populace, but I value myself on the truth and not what makes people happy… So f* it. While prented in a un-diplomatic manner, Slim has some valid points. Putting White women on a pedestal while bashing our Strong Black Women is faulty at best, but if you manage to look past some of the ignorance, he manages to point out a few of the things that one too many Black men have complained about over the past couple of years. And just like those before him, his words will fall on deaf ears and he will be drug over the coals. Long story short, there are a lot (but definitely not all) black women whose outlandish demands are poisioning Black love.

Whether it is minimum height requirements, salary specifications, or "swag" needs, a lot of good Black men are passed up and dismissed over childish and poorly thought out "needs". Slim’s words need polish (to say the least), but the fact that so many Black men see their female counterparts as "gold-digging," "drama filled" and too much trouble hurts us all. And unlike popular belief, it’s not just an issue of us men stereotyping.There are plenty of good Black women, but the bad ones make it hard for them. Instead of getting mad, I challenge the angry one’s offended at his word to a little introspection. You’re not that flawed, but a little bit of improvement will make a world of difference.

“Successful black men are extinct. We’re important.”

Please. Drop the delusions of grandeur, gents. We see right through you! This paper-thin layer of unjustifiable ‘swagger’ and pseudo-confidence is simply masquerading the vulnerability and self-doubt of the modern day man. The subtext is clear… spineless men of all creeds are waving the proverbial white flag of defeat. Unable to cope with the demands of a new class of empowered, strong-willed and fiercely independent women, they’ve resorted to projecting their insecurities on those that, god forbid, expect them to live up to their potential.

Let’s be clear. This is not a race issue. It’s yet another twist on the age-old enigma that is gender relationships. Despite what you may have read, I’m a White girl that couldn’t cook to save her life, treats no man like a king and certainly doesn’t obey dictatorial male ego, even if it means my job… but I certainly can cater to deserving men who are secure enough to take on the challenge of a strong woman. We can be loud, opinionated, and rebellious, and we make no apologies for it. It’s not a Black thing, or a White thing. It’s a women thing, and trust me when I say that the sooner you men come to realize it, the better off you’ll be.

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